My Husband (Part III)

Once again, we started from a base of friendship.

Hello dear reader.

I’m continuing my great love story today. So where did I leave off? Ah, yes, I was recovering from major brain surgery…

About three years after the surgery, Tim and I split up. I’m not going into the how and why, that part doesn’t matter. We were apart for almost a year. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever dealt with. It was also the best thing that could have happened. I grew so much during that time.

Anyway, this is about Tim and I, so let me get back to that. When Tim came back to Colorado we started talking. We were trying to rebuild our friendship. Slowly that happened. There was a lot of pain on both sides, so we took it real slow. We discovered the friendship that everything had all been built on was still there. Eventually we decided to get back together. We did couples counseling for quite a while and we both worked very hard.

All of this was a huge deal and I’m minimizing how hard it was because I want to focus on the good that came out of it. The good was that when we made the decision to get back together, we both knew for certain it was what we wanted. Our relationship became much stronger than it had been before the separation. Once again, we started from a base of friendship.

That summer, Tim, my son Jack, and I hiked to the top of Mt Elbert. That’s the highest mountain in Colorado and the second highest in Continental America. I had wanted to do that for seven years, and finally I did. That hike was life altering. I left all my can’ts on the top of that mountain.

Tim bought us a wonderful Victorian house and life was good. I was still sick, but was having more good days than bad.

Christmas Eve we went to the candle light service at St George’s, as always. The service was beautiful and moving, as always. At the end of the service the bulletin said “A Christmas question.” Ali (our priest) is good at that. I knew she was going to give us a question to think about over Christmas. Instead, Tim says, “Most of you know Lynnette and I know she means a lot to you. I don’t know if she realizes how much she means to me.” He then got on his knee, held out a beautiful sapphire ring (my favorite stone) and asked me to marry him. I was so shocked that I couldn’t speak! Tim had been chopping wood earlier in the day and had bruised his knee, and he’s down on that sore knee waiting and I can’t get a word to come out of my mouth!! I finally managed to stammer out, “Of course!”

I think that’s a good place to stop for today. I’m going to end by saying I’ve never regretted saying yes.

Until next time…

Relaxation

Happy Independence Day dear reader!

I was inspired to write about relaxation today by a few things. Obviously it’s 4th of July and summertime. I think it was more about the time we spent with some good friends yesterday, and ways to relax came up in the conversation.

There are a lot of people (myself included) who have to make an effort to relax. Sounds like an oxymoron, but it’s true. I try to just read a book , sit out in the sun, or just watch something on television and immediately my head is full of all the things I should be getting done. I tell myself that they can wait, which helps for about 30 seconds. From that point on there is an argument going on in my head and “relaxing” becomes one of the more stressful parts of the day!

People like me are really thankful for people like Tim. He will push me to go do things like taking a ride on the motorcycle or going for a walk in the woods with the dogs. I usually agree to it just to make him happy, but once I’m there I’m always extremely glad that I went. I come back relaxed and refreshed. That being said, you’re probably asking yourself, “If she knows it will help her, why does she have to be pushed into it?” That would be a totally legitimate question which I don’t have a clue how to answer.

Last night was a perfect example. We had dinner with a couple who are really good friends of ours. Yesterday was also the memorial service (at 11 a.m.) for Brenda. Needless to say, I wasn’t really in a mood to socialize. But plans had been made and both of them spend a lot of time out of town, so I felt obligated to go. I am SO glad I did! We had a wonderful time talking and laughing. We didn’t leave until after 11:00. I can’t remember the last time I wasn’t in bed by 10 at the latest. Yeah, I know, I know. The point is that my heart took a break from the pain I was feeling over losing Brenda and I was relaxed. Why is that so hard to do?

So I thought I’d try something a little different today. If I did it right (BIG if!) there will be a poll on here which asks you about your favorite ways to relax. There are a few things listed but, since there are as many ways to relax as there are personalities, there’s a “fill in the blank” option as well.

If you have any ideas about why it is so difficult for people to relax, or anything else you’d like to say, there’s a place for that as well in the comments section.

I hope all of you are having a wonderful time today with friends and family. Relax and enjoy it!

Until next time….

Relaxation Poll